The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System Cement Old Ties by Marriage such as Marriage between Cousins(亲上加亲) In ancient China,first cousins with the same surnames (i.e.those born to the father's brothers)were not permitted to marry,while those with different surnames (i.e.maternal cousins and paternal cousins born to the father's sisters)were
◆ Cement Old Ties by Marriage such as Marriage between Cousins （亲上加亲） In ancient China, first cousins with the same surnames (i.e. those born to the father's brothers) were not permitted to marry, while those with different surnames (i.e. maternal cousins and paternal cousins born to the father's sisters) were. The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System
The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System :Traditional marriage rituals ● Three letters ·: The marriage is initiated by a series of three letters. :The request letter is sent from the groom's family to the bride's family,and formally requests a marriage The gift letter accompanies the gifts of the groom's family to the bride's family shortly before the wedding. ●1 The wedding letter is given on the day of the wedding,officially accepting the bride into the groom's family
◆ Traditional marriage rituals Three letters The marriage is initiated by a series of three letters. ⚫ The request letter is sent from the groom's family to the bride's family, and formally requests a marriage. ⚫ The gift letter accompanies the gifts of the groom's family to the bride's family shortly before the wedding. ⚫ The wedding letter is given on the day of the wedding, officially accepting the bride into the groom's family The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System
The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System Six etiquette Proposal: when a boy's parents intended to make a match,they would invite a matchmaker to propose with them at the girl's home.It was the custom that the first time matchmaker went as a guest they could not be served tea in order not to 'lighten the marriage'.If the : proposal was successful,however,the matchmaker(usually a woman)would be rewarded with profuse gifts and feasts to show the two families'gratitude.Many unmarried young people could not see and were unfamiliar with each other till their wedding day. Woman Matchmaker
Six etiquette ⚫ Proposal: when a boy's parents intended to make a match, they would invite a matchmaker to propose with them at the girl's home. It was the custom that the first time matchmaker went as a guest they could not be served tea in order not to 'lighten the marriage'. If the proposal was successful, however, the matchmaker (usually a woman) would be rewarded with profuse gifts and feasts to show the two families' gratitude. Many unmarried young people could not see and were unfamiliar with each other till their wedding day. The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System Woman Matchmaker
The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System Birthday Matching : If the selected girl and her parents did not object to the proposal,the matchmaker would 666666666666 : match the birthdates in which Suan Ming is used (Suan Ming is Chinese fortune-telling technique in which the foreteller could predict people's ● 宇婚配“川五婚”歌快 future by only using either one's date of birth including year,month,date,and time,or hand 老看兔子不成脂 pattern.Ancient Chinese people believed that 寅 真猴一见而地分， the date of birth determines your future;a good 金鸡不到马整跑 birth date could bring luck not only to his/her 江猪不敢继花门， own self,but also to his/her family.Stereotype 戌狗爪到巳上去 people still believe that is true)to predict the future of that couple-to-be.If the result of Suan ● Ming was good,they then would go to the next ● step
⚫ Birthday Matching If the selected girl and her parents did not object to the proposal, the matchmaker would match the birthdates in which Suan Ming is used (Suan Ming is Chinese fortune-telling technique in which the foreteller could predict people’s future by only using either one’s date of birth including year, month, date, and time, or hand pattern. Ancient Chinese people believed that the date of birth determines your future; a good birth date could bring luck not only to his/her own self, but also to his/her family. Stereotype people still believe that is true) to predict the future of that couple-to-be. If the result of Suan Ming was good, they then would go to the next step. The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System
The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System ● Presenting Betrothal Gifts ● At this point the bridegroom's family arranges for the matchmaker to present bride price(betrothal gifts),including the betrothal letter,to the bride's family. Presenting Wedding Gifts: This was the grandest etiquette of the whole process ofengagement.Prolific gifts were presented again to the girl's family,symbolizing respect and kindness towards the girl's family as well as the capability of providing a good life for the girl. …中四飘.哥…序…
⚫ Presenting Betrothal Gifts At this point the bridegroom's family arranges for the matchmaker to present bride price (betrothal gifts), including the betrothal letter, to the bride's family. ⚫ Presenting Wedding Gifts: This was the grandest etiquette of the whole process of engagement. Prolific gifts were presented again to the girl's family, symbolizing respect and kindness towards the girl's family as well as the capability of providing a good life for the girl. The Transition of Chinese Marriage and Family System