Para.6 Eliot, 64, suffered a heart attack at age 44 He attributes some of the cause to stress. For years he was a hot reactor.On the exterior. he was cool calm and collected but on the interior stress was killing him. He' s now doing very well Para.7 The main predictors of destructive levels of stress are the FUD factors--fear, uncertainty and doubt--together with perceived lack of control, he says
Para.6 Eliot, 64, suffered a heart attack at age 44. He attributes some of the cause to stress. For years he was a “hot reactor ”. On the exterior, he was cool, calm and collected but on the interior, stress was killing him. He’s now doing very well. Para.7 The main predictors of destructive levels of stress are the FUD factors—fear, uncertainty and doubt—together with perceived lack of control, he says
Para. 8 For many people, the root of their stress is anger, and the trick is to find out where the anger is coming from."Does the anger come from a feeling that everything must be perfect?Eliot asks Para. 9"Thats very common in professional women. They feel they have to be all things to all people and do it all perfectly. They think, 'I should I must, I have to.' Good enough is never good enough Perfectionists cannot delegate. They get angry that they have to carry it all, and they blow their tops. Then they feel guilty and they start the whole cycle over again
Para.8 For many people, the root of their stress is anger, and the trick is to find out where the anger is coming from. “Does the anger come from a feeling that everything must be perfect?” Eliot asks. Para.9 “That ’s very common in professional women. They feel they have to be all things to all people and do it all perfectly. They think, ‘ I should, I must, I have to. ’ Good enough is never good enough. Perfectionists cannot delegate. They get angry that they have to carry it all, and they blow their tops. Then they feel guilty and they start the whole cycle over again.
Para. 10Others are angry because they have no compass in life. And they give the same emphasis to a traffic jam that they give a family argument, he says If you own anger for more than five minutes-if you stir in your own juice with no safety outlet--you have to find out where it's coming from Para. 11What happens is that the hotter people get, physiologically, with mental stress, the more likely they are to blow apart with some heart problem
Para.10 “Others are angry because they have no compass in life. And they give the same emphasis to a traffic jam that they give a family argument,” he says. “If you own anger for more than five minutes—if you stir in your own juice with no safety outlet—you have to find out where it’s coming from. ” Para.11 “What happens is that the hotter people get, physiologically, with mental stress, the more likely they are to blow apart with some heart problem
Para. 12 One step to calming down is recognizing you have this tendency. Learn to be less hostile by changing some of your attitudes and negative thinking Para. 13 Eliot recommends taking charge of your life, If there is one word that should be substituted for stress, it's control. Instead of the fud factors what you want is the NICE factors-new, interesting, challenging experiences
Para.12 One step to calming down is recognizing you have this tendency. Learn to be less hostile by changing some of your attitudes and negative thinking. Para.13 Eliot recommends taking charge of your life. “If there is one word that should be substituted for stress, it’s control. Instead of the FUD factors, what you want is the NICE factors—new, interesting, challenging experiences.
因 Para. 14 You have to decide what parts of your life you can control", he says."Stop where you are on your trail and say, 'I'm going to get my compass out and find out what I need to do Para. 15 He suggests that people write down the six things in their lives that they feel are the most important things they'd like to achieve. Ben Franklin did it at age 32. "He wrote down things like being a better father, being a better husband, being financially independent, being stimulated intellectually and remaining even tempered-he wasn' t good at that
Para.14 “You have to decide what parts of your life you can control ”, he says. “Stop where you are on your trail and say, ‘I’m going to get my compass out and find out what I need to do.’” Para. 15 He suggests that people write down the six things in their lives that they feel are the most important things they’d like to achieve. Ben Franklin did it at age 32. “He wrote down things like being a better father, being a better husband, being financially independent, being stimulated intellectually and remaining even tempered—he wasn’t good at that.